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(Spoiler alert — I’ll be discussing the third episode of the new “Ted Lasso” season below.)

My wife and I watched the third episode of the new season of “Ted Lasso” last week. Based on the comments I’ve read online, we weren’t the only viewers surprised to find ourselves watching a Christmas-themed show in the middle of August.

When the mercury is bursting out of the top of the thermometer, it’s hard to muster much enthusiasm for Christmas carols and fruit cake. But it wasn’t just the timing of the episode that threw me off. …


We need to appreciate our strengths the way other people do

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“How much did you make?” I ask my daughter when she returns from her latest babysitting gig. She’s home from college for the summer and has more families calling her than she can accommodate.

“They paid me $80,” she says.

She can tell by the incredulous look on my face I’m thinking about how I used to make $1.25 an hour for doing that.

“I know, right?” she says with a sheepish half-smile. “I feel kinda guilty, because the kids were only awake for an hour. They slept the other three hours. …


“There’s an active shooter in our building…”

The scene on Piedmont Road during the manhunt for Mark Barton (used under license from Reuters / Alamy)

“Someone just shot up the day-trading firm downstairs. There are bodies everywhere. I walked right up to it.”

I stare blankly at my father, unable to process the words he’s just said. He’s pale, his eyes glassy. I don’t realize it, but he’s in shock. As anyone would be who’d just stumbled upon a mass shooting.

It’s mid-afternoon on July 29, 1999. A few minutes earlier, Dad and I had been heading into a meeting in our office on the fourth floor of Piedmont Center, a mid-rise office building in the Buckhead business district of Atlanta. We’re partners in our…


From G.E. to GameStop, investors have a long history of following the herd right off the cliff

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No doubt you’re familiar with FOMO — the “fear of missing out.” It’s the angst we feel about being left out of the fun. It’s what drives us to go to social events we aren’t particularly interested in, because everyone else is going and we’re afraid of being the only loser sitting at home.

FOMO isn’t just a social phenomenon, though. I spent two decades as an investment manager, and I saw it time and again with individual investors. …


A story about Monty Python, Toad the Wet Sprocket, and the importance of shipping your work

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What do the legendary ’70s British comedy troupe Monty Python and the ’90s American rock band Toad the Wet Sprocket have in common? Weird names, for one. But how the latter got its weird name has a lot to do with the former. And it’s a great example of how, when we put creative work out into the world, we just never know how or when it’s going to inspire someone.

There was no shortage of strange band names in the 1990s — probably because the rockers in the prior decades took all the good ones. …


We all have imaginary “super-people” who threaten to destroy our confidence. Here’s how to take yours down.

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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” — Theodore Roosevelt

I’m not what you’d call a natural-born exerciser. I’m a big guy, and I don’t run so much as I lumber. I don’t get “jazzed” to work out. You wouldn’t want to be next to me in your Cross Fit class, unless you like being next to a sweaty middle-aged dude who’s constantly asking you “how much longer?” I frequently procrastinate about exercising, even though I know it’s what I need to do.

When I’m feeling particularly down on myself about my poor exercise habits, my mind often goes to my…


The Beatles had it right: All you need is love

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My daughter is in college, and she told me something recently that really jarred me. “My friend and I were talking the other day,” she said, “and we realized we’re two of the few girls we know who have a good relationship with their fathers.”

It was one of those weird life moments where I felt happy and sad at the same time. Happy that I was one of those two dads. Sad that so many of her friends have no emotional connection with their fathers.

No doubt about it — parenting is hard. And the hardest part of all…


How to go from self-critic to self-coach

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I recently watched a 2018 Netflix special with David Letterman and Jerry Seinfeld in which the two legendary entertainers took turns interviewing each other on stage. What struck me most was how much the two differed in their approach to compliments: Seinfeld was gracious and appreciative whenever Letterman noted his incredible career success while Letterman rejected or downplayed any positive comment Seinfeld made about his career.

It came off more as self-loathing than modesty. “I should have left [the show] 10 years ago,” Letterman said at one point, “because then I could have taken some of that energy and focus…


Community doesn’t just happen — we have to make it happen

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When I decided to sell my company and start a new chapter in my life as a one-man show, I was excited. No more 8 a.m. staff meetings. No more deadlines set by others for projects I wasn’t particularly enthusiastic about. No more personnel problems to deal with.

As the saying goes, the world was my oyster. I would finally be free — free to focus only on the things that interested and inspired me. Free to learn new things and think new ideas and plot the course I, alone, wanted to take.

As another saying goes: It all looks…


Rewards are fun — but the fear of pain is what keeps you focused

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I have a freelance writing contract that requires me to deliver a newsletter of around 2,000 words to my client on the second Wednesday of every new calendar quarter. It’s a hard deadline; if I don’t deliver the newsletter, the company can’t bill their clients, which blows up their quarterly operations calendar and gets a lot of people pissed off. At me.

Some quarters, the work on this newsletter flows easily for me and I’m done well before the deadline. Other quarters, I struggle for ideas and direction; when that happens, I invariably procrastinate and wait until the last minute.

Jack Calhoun

20+ years as managing principal of a wealth advisory firm. I write about the principles of sound investing, the solopreneur life and the wisdom of experience.

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